Sunday, October 10, 2010
Sending Them On...
Leading that group is a joy and a challenge. There is a huge discrepancy in people's needs, perspectives and awareness. Creating an environment in which such a diverse group all feel welcome and accepted tests me, and at times wears me out.
Part of what I do leading groups is consciously set the energy. I set my own vibration at being open and accepting, and model that. I set the energy of the group at being inclusive, effective and positive. Mostly it works! It's a pretty successful group.
Even still, in all groups that have been together awhile, there are some participants who others resist. One particular man last week was annoying the others, interrupting, being negative, falling asleep and snoring loudly when others were speaking, which he does fairly often.
I noticed myself beginning to resist this man, as I got stuck in feeling like I had to control the situation, and him. I felt the familiar frustration that comes with resistance, and the invalidation that comes with feeling out of control. When I got home I still felt frustrated and invalidated.
And so I finally get to the point of the story: the quote, and how we leave people. The next morning, as I was getting ready to go to work with very little enthusiasm, divine intelligence provided my answer to me in a gentle and perfect way, as it always does. My husband often reads me the daily word in the morning, and it had a quote from the Bible, "You will do well to send them on in a manner worthy of God." (3 John 1:6)
I remembered then that when I fall into judgment or resistance, I can choose to be my best self. I can encounter people in my day in a manner befitting my Godself, by being the best I can be in the moment. I'll never be perfect, but I can choose to lead that group affirming that in that little corner of creation, there is ample space for God's love in all of its expressions.
I choose to send them on in a manner worthy of God. And in doing so, I am blessed beyond measure.
May this tool be a blessing. . .